Gratitude Friday

10,000 Reasons – 29 Jan

Gratitude Friday is a ritual that Nolwenn Petitbois from Inner Voices started and I was participating in, for a couple weeks but, realized what I really wanted to be doing was my own thing.

This.  *smile*

10,000 Reasons To Be Happy is an homage to a book my father bought me when I was an overly goth, self-harming and depressed adolescent;  14,000 Things to Be Happy About by Barbara Ann Kipfer.  It’s just a list of 14,000 things that make the author happy.  Yeah, my father gave me that same look when I said I wanted it.  It’s just a list…of things, that make her happy.

Small actions have a big impact

It didn’t seem like much, I admit, but, when things were bad, and I found myself feeling like there was no reason to be alive, I would pick up the book and underline or hightlight a few things I agreed with.  I started to feel better, thinking of the things that made *her* happy and knowing that there were things we had in common.  Further, I realized that this was probably how people made themselves happy, by looking for the little things.

So, in an effort to be more authentic, I’ve created this.  It feels more my style.  The point is not to make it to the ten thousand things, the point is to list the little things that I noticed made me happy, this week, to keep record of them and to share them with the world.  Tell me if any of them make you happy, as well, and feel free to share with me what made you happy.  It’s about connection, after all.

  • the falling snow
  • watching my dog excitedly run down to the end of the hallway to the door to go outside before I correct her and tell her we are going out the other door and she has to run all the way back, almost bouncing like a rabbit
  • meeting my partner outside, walking from the bus stop
  • pulling together a ‘dinner’ with random ingredients
  • being inspired by my pulled together dinner to make a more refined dish





Gratitude Friday – Jan 22

Gratitude Friday is a ritual that Nolwenn Petitbois from Inner Voices has started and I am excited to participate in.

This week, I am grateful for:

  • Overnight guests that remind me that I really am still an excited, little girl deep down, and that’s perfectly as it should be
  • Modern medicine
  • Ancient rituals of healing
  • Being able to use both without ridicule.
  • Fresh fruit smoothies and drinking my breakfast

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  • Sunshine when everything is covered with snow
  • The crisp feel of freezing cold air in my lungs
  • Having a warm, safe place to exist, where I am loved and appreciated
  • Knowing I have time to work out issues from my past, and not wasting it
  • and for the very first time ever, I’m grateful for being empathic

Gratitude Friday – 1/8/2016

Gratitude Friday

Gratitude Friday is a ritual that Nolwenn Petitbois from Inner Voices has started and I am excited to participate in.

Super way late, I know.  Again.  Timing is not as important to me as the message and since I have skin issues right now (drug-induced lichen planus) that are causing pain in my feet and hands, making typing, and really everything, painful, I’m grateful I can do it, at all.

As I mentioned above, I am currently suffering with a skin affliction.  If you were to look it up, it would look pretty benign but it’s not a normal case.  I have the small legions all over and large “plaques” on the palms of my hands and the soles of my feet.  I’m on a Prednisone taper, have a corticosteroid ointment and have stopped taking the offending medication.

Deciding that I wanted to do this feature on my blog prompted me to keep track, daily or quasi-daily, of things I was grateful for during the week so that when it came time to make this post, I would have a list to pull from and I could see common themes.  *Smile*  I noticed, since every day I was in so much pain, unable to walk, to grasp anything, the first thing on my daily list of things I am grateful for was : My partner.

So today’s Gratitude Friday is me taking a moment to express how endlessly grateful I am for him.  I know how much stress he is under on a normal basis but for him to spend his winter break, a coveted and badly needed break, tending to me.  He did all the dishes.  He cooked all the meals, took Maisy for every walk, all the laundry, all the everything….without complaint.  As a matter of fact, it was with a smile and a kiss to shush my apologies and ease my sadness and guilt, to quash my budding tears.

Thank you, Olivier.  I love you, without end and without measure.


Gratitude Friday 1/1/16

Gratitude Friday

I’m sure this post won’t actually make it up on January 1st, Friday but, I figure it’s worth it, even if its a bit late.  Gratitude Friday is a ritual that Nolwenn Petitbois from Inner Voices has started and I am excited to participate in.

So, here at Raven + Lotus, we will be doing Gratitude Fridays!  YAY!

This week I am grateful for:

  • having a warm and comfortable home
  • Pamala’s chili recipe
  • my life partner
  • his family
  • snickerdoodles
  • my new blog
  • having room to grow into whoever I decide to be with no nudging or judging
  • embroidery
  • making decisions and feeling strong in them